Food for thought…

Every day we see the happiness but also the pain that everyone goes through in life. Some people are very good at hiding it & some people are not.

It breaks my heart to see people who have had hardship all their lives still receiving it as an adult. As an adult you have the right to be friends with whoever you like. Stay where ever you like. Do whatever you like & be with whoever you like. You should never be made to feel bad about these choices or given attitude & a cold shoulder from others about your choices.

True friends & family should respect & love you enough to support you even if they don’t accept or support your choices.

No one should ever feel unwelcome in their own home or even the home of a loved one. Unfortunately, I see these actions daily & it breaks my heart. Your life choices are exactly that YOUR choices no one else’s.

“Respect those friends who fine time for you in their busy schedule, but really love those friends who never see their schedule when you need them.”  - Just when you thought you have friends for life they unfortunately show their true colours & you are back to square one all because you have one argument or disagreement that one of you can’t forget even after talking & apologising. This is not adult life. So please chose your friends wisely as you need them.

“Being strong is important but knowing who you can count on is equally important.” – You should be able to count on your best friends & family no matter what you are going through but some of us aren’t that lucky.

“True friends won’t grow apart even if they don’t talk every day.” – I wish this was true for every friendship story but it is not because some people think that it is okay to hurt their true friends because they chose to do something differently & didn’t make contact for a day.

“There is no comfort anywhere for anyone who dreads to go home.” – Sadly I have seen this first hand, someone who doesn’t want to go home because their house is a house not a home where they feel comfortable & welcome & instead they feel uncomfortable & unwelcome & that is not fair on anyone.

So please people read this is & be thankful for everyone in your life. Go & fix broken friendships. Make time for your loved one. Show them you appreciate & support them.

Dear Nana In Law, 

Why so bitter?

You are a very controlling nasty old woman who needs a good waking up to reality.

I can not stand you. The lies about me that you have spun & tried to put in my partner's head (your grandchild). You are disgusting. 

You should be a role model. Instead you do nothing but make people feel bad & you make every single conversation about you. 

You sent nasty nasty messages to your grandchild to try & split us up then when it didn't work you called it quits on your relationship & now you have nothing to do with your own flesh & blood. I know see where you evil daughter & granddaughter get it from. 

You all love the mind games that you use on each other. You are all as sick & twisted as each other.

Apparently I say things to you that you don't like. Well I must be asleep because when I am near you I don't say a thing to you because you make me so uncomfortable & I do not like you one bit. 

I have helped your grandchild grow up & become their own person. You should appreciate this but no you hate it because it means that you can't control them anymore so instead you are going around saying that I am dangerous & that I dictate your grandchild's life? HAHAHA I wish sometimes, but no my darling is very stubborn & does as they please & for that I am proud because they never used to be like that growing up with you & your daughter as role models.

You wrote of your family because of choices.

Do you even know how to love someone unconditionally?

You don't have to support their choices or like them but you are still meant to stick by them & love them.

You lost - good luck coming back from this one.

So why so bitter?

Regards, 

The Winner

Dear Sister In Law,

Why so bitter?

You are the one to blame that I am in everyone's lives. You were obsessed with being my friend at school. You are the one that always ran to me when you needed help or were upset.
You are the one that introduced me to your sibling - you are the one that wanted all three of us to do things together. You are the one that let us spend so much time together for us to get to know each other so well.

After you were kicked out at 19 who took you in most weekends & spent all her time with you?
Oh wait I did. I did it all. I paid for over $500 worth of clothes for you because I felt sorry for you, I gave you money when you needed it. I went on trips with you when you needed someone.
Yet I am the bad person?

I got with your sibling officially & I was suddenly the worst person in the world.
Then the rumors started - anything you could think of to make you feel better.

I had abortion at 16!! - REALLY?? I could never ever kill a child - this is the worst thing you could say about - funny how no one believes you though.

Now you are telling everyone that I am fatter than you which just makes people crack up laughing. You are a size 26 i am a 10! Do the math love.

You are a very jealous person & I get that but being obsessed with me is now very very creepy.

Yes I will always have the stronger love & life than you & yes I would be jealous of that too but there is nothing you can do to change it so give up.

Keying my car? Sticking nails in my tyres? Could you not think of anything else?
You know I will always have the money to fix things like that instantly so give up.

Your sibling & I buy a house in a year & we are both so excited to be buying a house, owning our own dream cars, buying brand new furniture. Creating our new life together that we will be proud to call ours.

What have you got? Nothing.
You will still live with your Mum.
You will still hang out with nasty people.
You will still be a compulsive liar.

If you are willing to change yourself then don't bring others down with you. You are clearly your mother's daughter - exactly the same.

So why so bitter?

Regards,
Your sister in law

Dear Brother in Law,

Why so bitter?

Why are you letting yourself be brain washed?
Why are you sitting back & becoming nasty & cruel like your mother?

Don't waste your life being controlled like your other siblings were at your age.

You are a helpless child still, who is being controlled by a very selfish bitter woman who can't let go of the past it is very sad to see as I am sure that you could have a wonderful & successful life if you just put your mind to it.

You dropped out of school at 16. Your father set up a new life for you & all you had to do was say yes but instead you let your mother get in your head, "íf you leave I will have no one left & I will be alone forever.". That is not your guilt to bear. You need to learn to live your life instead of letting others influence you.

You have now written off your Dad because your mother & him hate each other & you have taken sides because of all the lies that have been spun to you.

We thought you'd be the strong one in the family & not let anyone control you or get in your head - we were clearly wrong.


WAKE UP & smell the coffee. Life is better on the outside than what you are living now.

Why so bitter?

Regards,

The concerned & angry.

Dear Mother In Law,

Why so bitter?

I know we will never like each other let alone be civil to each other but that is from both sides so I am fine with this completely.

I am not fine with the way that you treat your child. You kicked them out of your house because they chose to go on a holiday as an adult & you didn't like who they were going with. That is not what a loving mother does. You are meant to be there for your child & support their decisions & watch them grow in their independence.  Instead you haven't spoken to your child in nearly 3 years.

Do you even remember how to be a mother!? How to love your children?
Do you understand what loving unconditionally is?

I am not the one that ruined your life & relationship with your child. You did that all on your own. You made up lies about all the people you didn't like so that your child would stick beside you & not have a life. Your child was so sheltered till I came along & taught them how to stand up to you & to others. But no you can't see that as a good thing you see that as a time to write them off & have nothing to do with them.

You have now blocked your child out of your life completely. You don't have each others cellphone numbers. You have blocked them off Facebook & they are not allowed near your property. I wouldn't even be surprised if you have told people you only have two children instead of three.

I hope you know that your child now has a wonderful relationship with their father again after your screwed that up & stopped them from speaking for two years.

I hope you know that your child has a wonderful relationship with their Auntie (your sister) as she has now taken your place & treats your child with so much love & respect it is amazing to see.

Yes I know you hate me & I strongly dislike you too but I have never ever stopped your child from having a relationship with you like you have tried to stop me, this is all your own fault that your child now never ever wants to see you again.

You need to realise that I am now in this for the long haul. We are buying a house together in a year & then we plan to finally get married & start our own family. Yes this means that I will officially be your Daughter in Law & the mother of your grandchildren.

I can not turn off my feelings for your child & they can't turn off theirs for me. We are in love have been for years & for years we have let you & your family control this & run away from each other well not anymore.

Your child is a whole different person these days. So independent & strong & at a stage in their life that they are starting to love themselves instead of hurting themselves & being angry all the time.

It is time to accept this and move on with your life instead of sitting being bitter about everything around.

I won (not that it was a competition). You drove them right into my arms.

So why so bitter?

Regards,
Your Daughter In Law